Your child is not your adversary

Your child is not your adversary

 You are not at fault for anything they do. When a person is upset, sad, or timid, you are not a part of what they are thinking. They feel and experiment with their emotions. If something frustrates you, you should consider what is causing the frustration. What is the unresolved problem that is making me angry, frustrated, or unhappy about this circumstance? It's about what they are reflecting back to you about yourself, not about them. Don't overlook this. It is never about them; rather, it is about your personal reflection and unresolved problems.

Rule 2:

Your youngster is constantly checking to see if you act consistently. Will you keep your promise? Will you always stand by your statements? Or are you going to respond differently each time I test you? Holding faithful to your actions and following through is essential. All of this is about your child determining whether or not my home setting is secure. No matter what they do, your youngster is trying to see how secure their environment is. The presence of unpredictable behavior in the surroundings signals to a youngster that it is not a secure setting. They want to be sure that their surroundings and home are secure.

Although it might sound strange, this is how they evaluate and test the stability of the family, including the parents, grandparents, and the home. They are aware that it is unsafe when someone is inconsistent. Comparable to testing a car, boat, plane, etc. You can tell you have a dependable vehicle if it functions consistently, in the same manner, all the time. If the parent is constant, they will trust you since you are dependable. They are confident in your ability to get them there and back safely, just as you are confident in your car. You don't trust a car if it breaks down or drives erratically. Your kid experiences the same thing. They want to know if you exhibit abnormal behavior, such as screaming and yelling. They will constantly put you to the test since they are constantly developing and having their minds changed.

Rule 3:

The finest teacher you have about yourself may be your child. All of your unsolved internal concerns will come to the surface, forcing you to address them. Because babies do not enter this world with all the crazy-making in their thoughts, they are a perfect gift from the creator. Additionally, they are innocent and pure. They do not have an agenda or predetermined notions about what they will do. They once more have pure minds and will mirror what the creator, the universe, or God brings to our planet. In addition, for the first five years, they are unadulterated beings. All of them center on love. If you pay close attention to what they are saying, you will witness the universe developing in its most natural state, free from the stigmas and expectations of proper behavior that come with the human species.